Be careful of people who can’t accept kindness 

Be careful of people who can’t accept kindness 

Sometimes red flags are blatant and in your face. Other times red flags are subtle or hidden.  In my experience in navigating the world of relationships (platonic and romantic), I noticed some people (mainly newer people) in my life are not as straightforward about their feelings and/or they allow their pasts traumas to effect our interactions. This can be revealed in many ways. But one way in particular is the person who has a hard time excepting niceness.  When you give and do something nice for them. They feel like they owe you something.  They want to play tit for tat.  They feel they can’t except niceness or gifts unless they are able to return the favor. Trust me, this is a red flag.

I don’t mean the type of person who is playing coy and responds with a “oh, you shouldn’t have”, or a “is this for me, oh I don’t deserve all this”; but still gratefully accepts the gift. 

The person who can’t seem to understand why you would want to do something nice for them. Or someone who does not want to accept nice gestures or nice things from you if they can’t do the same in return.  They even ask you to stop doing nice things for them because it makes them feel uncomfortable. 

I feel they can’t except it because they probably wouldn’t do they same for you or anyone who they aren’t responsible for. This behavior shows their level of trauma as well as the professional care they might need. If you are on a journey or healing or ascension, these very people can be a detriment to you. You have to recognize them because they might be operating on a lower vibrational frequency. And we all know those come with lower vibrational entities attached to them.